In this commentary, Jacobson's exploration of Bollas's notions of >true self and >idiom< is discussed. I underline Bollas's focus on unconscious processes in general and in the psychoanalytic relation in particular and – referring to Bion and Bollas – discuss the importance of the analyst's intuitive capacity in sensing these processes. Winnicott's and Bollas's formulations on the notion of true self/idiom are briefly reviewed and its unknowable quality is emphasized. While being in many respects appreciative of Jacobson's essay, I argue against his position of not considering idiom as something inherent and unique to each person, claiming that Jacobson's understanding of Bollas's notion sometimes is too concrete. I argue as well against Jacobson's view of Bollas as a >one-person theorist< and as holding a position leading to >a distancing of the social world.<